tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576989325677664760.post638688156446219743..comments2024-03-27T02:21:40.322-05:00Comments on You Are My Licorice: Blame GameLarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14724675337980390322noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576989325677664760.post-963599015981180452011-02-10T02:00:07.293-06:002011-02-10T02:00:07.293-06:00I've been having a lot of similar thoughts abo...I've been having a lot of similar thoughts about Oliver tonight. Tomorrow (well, today now) is the anniversary of his birth and death, and it's impossible not to ask how things might have been different. But I want you to know that you did right by Caleb. You were a great mom. I know how impossible it can be when you have complications in a first pregnancy to even know what's happening. All we can do is trust our caregivers. In hindsight it's easy to think what else we might have done, but I'm sure you remember that in the moment you did the best you could for him.<br /><br />It's strange to be pregnant again, because at this point I feel like it can't go fast enough. I'm itching daily to hit 24 weeks, and then get bigger and bigger. I can't wait for you to, either.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05683623259565397806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576989325677664760.post-61699140712111243662011-02-09T13:55:55.936-06:002011-02-09T13:55:55.936-06:00It's very brave of you to share honestly about...It's very brave of you to share honestly about Caleb's birth and your regrets. I say that because I struggle so much with my guilt and pain over Liam's birth, the "what ifs", the crazy notion that everyone (family, friends) blame me and think "how stupid she is for not knowing, for not demanding more care, more intervention." I don't really know how to let it go completely and be free of it and just mourn him and love him without the feeling of blame. Somehow, reading other women's birth stories reminds me how similar we all are and how fallible, unfortunately, and how, no matter if we do everything "right" it just doesn't end up that way. I hate it that I'm not alone and I hate hate hate it that other women know exactly, down to the location of a pin prick, of the pain I feel because they've experienced it themselves. Thank you for bringing me comfort today and reminding me that I'm not alone. <br /><br />Congratulations on this pregnancy! brings hope for the future...Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11246142239742915169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576989325677664760.post-26892619009182799902011-02-09T12:04:56.462-06:002011-02-09T12:04:56.462-06:00Oh Lara, I know these next few days are going to b...Oh Lara, I know these next few days are going to be tough on you as you relive last year and remember Caleb's birth. <br /><br />I go through those what if's too and they just kill me.<br /><br />I know this time, if I feel ANYTHING out of sorts, I'll be going in. I won't wait like last time with Wyatt. I won't.<br /><br />Big *hugs*Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11725206633751351133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576989325677664760.post-14602863401859253372011-02-09T11:40:38.494-06:002011-02-09T11:40:38.494-06:00Yes, always be an advocate! When I went in cuz I ...Yes, always be an advocate! When I went in cuz I thought my water broke, the ferning test was negative. I walked around for two hours, came back, and they were ready to send me home cuz I had no progress. I asked again to be tested, and it was positive. I knew my water was broken!<br /><br />Lara, I've been following your blog(s) for sometime, and I'm so happy to see you are pregnant again. I lost my 2 month old son a month ago, and so many women came to mind when he was sick and dying. You were one of them. Your story made my heart so sad, and now that I'm going through a loss, well, it's just a whole new level now. I'm sure I've commented before when you lost sweet Caleb, but I just wanted to say again that I'm so sorry. Much love and best wishes for your current pregnancy!Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04548457462997589508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3576989325677664760.post-52632712124586004992011-02-09T09:13:51.014-06:002011-02-09T09:13:51.014-06:00((hugs))
As someone who lost a baby at 37 weeks af...((hugs))<br />As someone who lost a baby at 37 weeks after going in for monitoring more than once, I feel the same way. I share blame with the doctors. I should have pushed for an u/s earlier or they should have ordered one.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06469312664920124105noreply@blogger.com